Kids’ hair changes dramatically as they grow. The style that worked at three looks wrong at seven. Here’s what to consider at every stage, from toddlers to teenagers.
Toddlers (Ages 1-3)
First haircuts happen somewhere in this range. Most toddlers have fine, wispy hair that doesn’t hold styles well. Keep expectations low and cuts simple.
What Works
Basic trims to keep hair out of eyes. Nothing requiring product or styling. The goal is managing growth, not creating a look. Bowl cuts get mocked, but they’re actually practical for this age—easy to maintain and grows out evenly.
What to Avoid
Anything that requires the child to sit still for extended periods. Complex fades or detailed work. Styles that need daily maintenance from parents who are already exhausted.
Early Childhood (Ages 4-6)
Hair thickens and develops more texture. Kids have opinions now, which complicates things. They’ve seen haircuts on TV characters and classmates.
What Works
Classic cuts that look neat for school but don’t require much effort. Simple side parts, short crops, or medium-length styles that can be combed quickly. Let them pick from a few pre-approved options to give them agency without chaos.
What to Avoid
Trendy adult styles scaled down. Anything that makes them stand out too much—kids this age want to fit in. Elaborate styles requiring morning styling when everyone’s rushing for school.
Elementary School (Ages 7-10)
Peer influence intensifies. Your kid knows exactly what haircuts their friends have and wants the same. Hair type becomes more defined, making some styles easier and others impossible.
What Works
Age-appropriate versions of popular styles. Fades and undercuts can work now if maintenance schedules allow. Let them experiment within reason—hair grows back. This is when personality starts expressing through hair choices.
What to Avoid
Being too controlling. Forcing styles they hate creates resentment. But also avoid anything too extreme that could result in bullying or school dress code violations.
Pre-Teen (Ages 11-13)
Hormones begin affecting hair. It may become oilier or change texture entirely. Self-consciousness peaks. Every perceived flaw feels catastrophic.
What Works
Haircuts that work with their changing hair rather than fighting it. Teaching basic styling and product use. Letting them take ownership of their appearance while providing guidance.
What to Avoid
Dismissing their concerns about appearance. Forcing practical over preferences—within limits, let them make choices. Ignoring signs that hair issues are affecting confidence.
Teenagers (Ages 14-17)
Full autonomy is approaching. They probably know more about current trends than you do. Hair becomes a significant identity expression, sometimes to an extreme degree.
What Works
Stepping back. Offering opinions when asked. Funding reasonable requests. Understanding that experimentation—even bad experimentation—is developmentally normal. The purple mohawk phase will pass.
What to Avoid
Power struggles over hair. It’s not worth damaging your relationship over something that grows back. Pick battles over things that actually matter, not appearance choices.
General Principles Across Ages
Find a barber or stylist who specializes in kids. They have patience, work faster, and understand that children aren’t small adults. Regular trims every 4-6 weeks prevent major corrections later.
Teach hair care as they get older. Basic hygiene, appropriate products, and styling techniques are life skills. They won’t live with you forever, and they’ll need to manage their own hair eventually.
Document the journey. Every awkward haircut phase is a memory. Embarrassing photos now become treasured family stories later.
Subscribe for Updates
Get the latest articles delivered to your inbox.
We respect your privacy. Unsubscribe anytime.